Mental Health Monday: Guilt

This is something I’ve wanted to talk about for a long time and I’ve noticed that more people on twitter seem to be struggling with the same thing. Mental Health guilt.
Mental health guilt means feeling guilty that you’re struggling with a mental health issue because you feel like you have nothing to be mentally ill for.

My example
When I first started battling depression & anxiety seriously, I was 17 and in my final year of college completing my A-Levels. I was surrounded by friends who I felt comfortable around. I was sociable in college & performed in every college show. I had a lot of work & was stressed just like everybody else (stress is my main trigger for the depression & anxiety to return).
I’ve never really struggled in school & I’ve always been fairly bright (not bragging but trying to explain the context). My parents have always showed me & my brother love, support, security. They’re still together in a happy marriage, I’ve definitely not had a tricky upbringing.
Financially, I’ve never had to worry about asking for things that I’d like. I wouldn’t always get them but I never had to worry about asking.
I’ve never even actually had anyone close to me who has died. I still have all of my grandparents & even still have a great-nan. I’ve never had to deal with loss.
Basically, from the outside looking in, my life is practically perfect. So what do I have to be depressed about? Who am I to be feeling this way? There are people who have it so much worse than me!
Here is where the mental health guilt comes in.
The over-riding thoughts & feelings that my feelings aren’t valid. That I’m over-reacting. That I’m making it up somehow. Feeling guilty that I have had this seemingly perfect life so I shouldn’t be depressed.
I think the guilt is one of the reasons why I didn’t talk about my mental health for so long. I didn’t want to risk alienating myself from those close to me who knew that physically I had nothing to be depressed about.
Except that’s not how depression & anxiety works.
Anxiety isn’t rational.
Depression lies to you.
Anxiety & depression doesn’t let you see what is going right in your life.
I’m going to tell you something that you need to repeat to yourself whenever you feel the guilt coming through. Your feelings are valid. Just because you haven’t had any trauma doesn’t mean that what you’re feeling isn’t real.
Depression, anxiety and a whole host of other mental health struggles can affect anyone, at any age, at any time. Depression does not discriminate.
The guilt comes in waves but I am starting to gain control on it now that I understand it better. You would never say to yourself ‘I don’t know why I feel so happy when X has it so much better than me’ so why do we tell ourselves the reverse?
I could count my blessings, I could look at the things going right in my life but I was still depressed. If anything, not having a ‘real’ reason to be depressed made me worse. The fact that I knew that from the outside looking in there was no reason to be feeling so dreadful, it alienated me. I withdrew more because I didn’t want anyone to ask me why I was depressed. I didn’t want anyone reinforcing the unhelpful thoughts that I was already plagued with.
Now, I know that depression & anxiety is just a part of how I am. It is not a curable illness, it is remissive. It comes & goes. I no longer obsess over the guilt because I don’t need to make myself feel any worse than the depression already does.
If you find yourself feeling guilty about your mental health, think about how you would react if somebody told you they felt the way you do. Would you tell them that they have no reason? Or would you support them? Don’t deny yourself of support, your illness is real and you don’t need to worry about perceptions.
This post was written as part of Mental Health Monday.


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I am a 22 year old teacher from the UK who is currently travelling around Australia on a Working Holiday Visa year.

21 thoughts on “Mental Health Monday: Guilt


    (January 1, 2018 - 7:38 pm)

    I’m glad you wrote this post, I do hate the stigma around mental health and how a lot don’t want to know as they think its something you can change with a flick of a switch. I don’t personally deal with it but I do know people who do, my partner does and I’ve seen the awful effect it can have on him at times. If you ever need anyone to talk to on a bad day don’t be afraid to message me!


      (January 1, 2018 - 8:25 pm)

      Thank you so much! I love to get positive comments about raising awareness, I’m in a good place right now so it’s easier to talk about, hopefully the more that people talk about it, the more the stigma reduces! You’re very kind, thank you! ☺️


    (January 2, 2018 - 12:18 pm)

    I’m also glad you wrote this post, this is exactly how I feel! Its just so nice to know that theres someone else who feels the same, and that depression and anxiety lie to you. Happy New Year!


      (January 2, 2018 - 12:21 pm)

      Thank you for reading! I’m glad it provided you with the sense that you’re not alone! I think a lot of people feel this way so it’s important to talk about it! 🙂
      Happy New Year!


    (January 2, 2018 - 7:06 pm)

    I totally agree with everything you’re writing about in this post. This is exactly how I felt when I was suffering from postpartum depression. Thanks for the post!


      (January 2, 2018 - 7:25 pm)

      Thank you for reading! It really affects so many people, I just had to write it as I hoped that people would feel less guilty!

    Lena Dee

    (January 2, 2018 - 10:59 pm)

    This is such a meaningful post! Battling depression isn’t easy and you said it right…”it lies to you” it makes you feel trapped in your thoughts, in places you can’t escape. I wish you the very best and know that you’re not alone 💕
    xx Lena |


      (January 2, 2018 - 11:47 pm)

      Thank you for commenting! I’ve found that talking about it makes it easier as you realise just how many people are battling the same thing!

    Liebster Blog Award – bexcapades

    (January 3, 2018 - 1:17 pm)

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    AndOutComesTheGirl🌸 (@six_182)

    (January 3, 2018 - 4:36 pm)

    You’re absolutely right, depression is a liar and we need to stay focused when it occours badly. People who struggle should not be afraid to speak or seek help, it’s important for us all to understand and hear who need support and give it to them unconditionally!
    – Silvia


      (January 4, 2018 - 10:37 am)

      Thank you for reading! It really is important to normalise talking about it & then we can all feel more supported! 🙂


    (January 10, 2018 - 12:18 pm)

    This is really a very good point and appreciate your take on it.


      (January 10, 2018 - 12:20 pm)

      Thank you! It took me a long time to accept that my feelings were valid so I felt like I had to write the post to let others know that their’s are too!

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    (February 14, 2018 - 7:20 pm)

    Thank God is all I can say. Thank God you posted this, because you’ve just eased my guilt. I have no reason to suffer either. I had in fact an idyllic childhood, but wasn’t taught many life skills, so I developed some fairly bad coping mechanisms to deal with this. One bad habit led to another until I was in quite a pickle. Thank you for posting this, you’ve got a definite ‘follow’ from me and I’m looking forward to reading more from you. Very best wishes and thank you again.


      (February 14, 2018 - 10:21 pm)

      Thank you so much! You should never feel guilty about mental health because it doesn’t discriminate 💜

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    (April 16, 2018 - 10:27 am)

    I can completely relate to you on this! Been feeling like this on and off since I was 17 too! Thanks for writing x


      (April 16, 2018 - 11:32 pm)

      Thank you for commenting! It’s a hard thing to try & overcome but we have to keep reminding ourselves that our feelings are valid x

    (April 19, 2018 - 2:56 pm)

    TOTALLY get where you’re coming from. Oftentimes, guilt over not feeling ‘worthy’ of being mentally ill can make matters even worse! As you say though, anxiety and depression AREN’T rational. Hope you’re well!


      (April 19, 2018 - 11:33 pm)

      Thank you for taking the time to read it! I used to make myself sick worrying that I had no reason to have anxiety & depression, I’m just glad that I have a better understanding of it now!

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